First Date Jitters? – Follow These Steps and Relax

The purpose and hope of both parties on a first date is to have some fun and get to know each other better. Each person is hoping to add to the possibilities that things will go well. Being unsure and a bit worried about your part in creating a good date can make you apprehensive and downright scared. Having some guidelines and advice along these lines can be a welcomed support for any first date. Everything from teen dating to senior dating, one thing is for certain, if you keep the conversation interesting, uplifting and positive, both parties will report having had a wonderful time.

Body Language is Important

atlanta-relationship-coachConsider body language, here is the first clue that you can observe to find out how things are going. People who feel confident are relaxed; they are more open in their body posture. Here are some examples of the less confident individual on a date and the body language they may exhibit. Arms are crossed in front of the chest, fingers are drumming on a surface nearby, legs are twitching, or crossing and then uncrossing; these are signs of a closed down, not connected, nervous jittery person who is lacking in self confidence.

The Eyes Have It

Additionally, eyes are wondering all about the place without a pleasant smile on the persons face indicates a less than pleasant experience is taking place. If you take note of yourself or the other person, you will need to make an assessment of where the date is going and act accordingly. Once you realize that you have begun to look and act like a frightened escapee ready to run at a moment’s notice, you just might have an opportunity to turn things around.

Keep The Conversation Going

However, if it’s not you with the face of fear minus a smile, or in the case of it is you with the pained expression, employing the following advice will serve you well at all times. Even if your date appears to be a lost cause, if will improve your own performance on future dates when you learn how to create a conversation that your partner will enjoy. And quite possibly you will be able to relax and enjoy the date, as well.

Ultimately, you will be known as a good date. Then the word will spread that you are someone who is fun to take out. This will lead to more dating opportunities and a secure place in your ability to find that special someone.

So, here is how to keep the conversation going:

You are to guide the conversation along lines of happy, positive thinking. Mainly answering and creating powerful questions that will illicit positive happy feelings of a good nature that your date will be able to converse in and create lots of smiles and good humor. Never talk about your ex!

By employing the following recommendations, keep in mind that the best you can do for yourself to ease your own apprehensions and stress, is to make the other person feel confident and at ease.

Your verbal dating conversation skills will largely be judged on how you are able to create a conversation that your partner enjoys. Ultimately, that leads to you getting more dates. If you’re thinking this is obvious, yes it is! The question is HOW to create an interesting conversation.

A lively give and take between both, including an emphasis on asking and answering questions will make up the majority of your conversation. If you ask the right questions, your partner is going to have fun. If you ask the wrong questions, they are going to ditch you. If you are evasive or less than honest when answering his questions, he is going to ditch you quicker.

Questions are powerful. Funny thing is that when a person is asked a direct question they somehow feel obligated to answer it.

Here are some conversation starter question ideas for your first date:

“What do you love to do in your spare time?” “What do you particularly enjoy about that?” “If you could go on a fantasy holiday, anywhere in the world, where would it be and what would you do?”

By asking these questions you will cause your date to recall pleasant past experiences and share them with you. Or he may become creative and tell you a lot about how he sees the future, and could share some insight into himself that will create a beginning bond between you. Remember it needs to be fun!

Finally, when on a first date, it is expected that one or both parties will be a bit nervous. When the conversation doesn’t stray of into stories of personal tragedies, such as; a grueling divorce; an ugly custody fight over the kids; or a job you hate, there is better likelihood that this first date will be remembered fondly and perhaps told to your grandchildren many years later.