Are you in pain over the loss of a relationship? Maybe you tell yourself, if I only knew why then maybe I won’t have this same relationship horror happen to me again. Keep reading because you really need to know the 4 most common mistakes we as women make with our boyfriends, husbands and the men in our lives.
There was a time when it wasn’t the woman being dumped, but just the opposite when the woman was the “dumper”, if that’s a word. Here’s an example, the Dear John letter. How many men away from home dread the thought of a Dear John letter. It has played a significant role in our society, so much so, that it doesn’t have to be explained. There are any number of songs, movies and books about women dumping men. Now the tables have turned a bit, instead of the woman being the one ending the relationship it has increasingly become the man who ends the relationship.
Isn’t it time you began to fully understand the motives behind his actions? This may not be as complex a thing as you might imagine. You see men are pretty uncomplicated beings; you might call them the straightforward members of our species.
Here are 4 Reasons Why Men Dump Women
1. How You Made Him Feel
Sometimes we feel that men aren’t as emotional as we are. That’s because from a young age men are usually taught to not show their emotions. They do have emotions as well as big egos. Men like praise and attention. They want to feel that they are appreciated and that they’re smart and capable of doing most anything they set their mind to. They want to be told (regularly) that they are wonderful lovers, cooks, fathers or whatever they like to do. But sometimes we can be too critical even to the point of belittling. If you too often pointed out his flaws and his mistakes – this could have cost you a relationship. The main reason a man will seek out another woman is because of the way she him feel about himself.
2. Lack of Communication
This is the top reason. Now you know without communication nothing is workable. If you have not communicated what was important to you during the course of the relationship, then you need to think about your communications skills. Is it because you were intimidated and didn’t speak up for yourself? Could you have a self worth issue? Or did you take the mysterious woman thing too far? These are some heavy questions you need to ponder.
Self-analysis would be appropriate here. Be brave and eliminate the pain of rejection and not have to face it once, twice or more times again in a future relationship. Consider what it takes for you to move on an embrace the lesson of what better communicating would have done for the now past relationship. Increase your odds at having a fulfilling relationship by exploring in depth your communicating style.
3. Women Become Too Demanding
The operative word here is “too” demanding. So often women become “owners” of their man, they began to think in terms of he needs to do these things for me since look at what I do for him. Typically the women in our society want to control anything and everything about the relationship, sometimes they go as far as trying to control the man himself. Often times, they will try to set rules and limits; such as, take the dishes out of the dishwasher just a certain way; when you cut the grass do the front yard first not the back, etc. Arguably, this is when communication isn’t the problem, it may be just the opposite, too much communication and controlling behavior. Again this sense of having ownership over another person, your man, erupts when you give him a hard time about his time hanging out with his friends, what he watches on T.V., his working late, within reason of course. However, the men that finally get enough of this controlling girlfriend, or wife, in the end, they end it, and usually site this as a reason why they broke up.
4. Being Too Reliant On Men
There are times when women become too clingy, needy, and reliant on their man. It’s okay for a woman to play up the “damsel in distress” routine once in a while. In fact, most men enjoy playing the role of “hero.” However, it can be taken too far and becomes quite annoying if done on a regular basis. Most men want a woman who is independent, and can make decisions on her own. Some women insist that the man spend every free minute of every free day with her – this is known as smothering.
It is healthy for people in a relationship to have lives outside the relationship. If the woman makes the man the center of her life and becomes too obsessed, it will usually be too much him.
These reasons are by no means conclusive. There can be many reasons why men dump women. The best thing you can do if you were on the receiving end is to learn from your mistakes and try not to repeat them in the next relationship. Try to think and imagine how you would like to be treated in a relationship and treat your man that way. Just remember that the third law of the universe is “you get back what you put out”.